Darlene Vande Hey

Darlene F. (Dar) Vande Hey, Wrightstown, Age 73, died Monday July 18, 2016 with her family by her side. Darlene was born March 6, 1943 in Appleton, daughter of Wilfred and Louise (Marsch) Vanevenhoven. On December 28, 1964 Dar married Tim Vande Hey at Holy Cross Catholic Church, Kaukauna. The couple celebrated 53 years of marriage together and made their home in Wrightstown. Dar graduated from Kaukauna High School in 1961. Dar worked at the Wrightstown Library, Guardian Insurance Company and later retired from American Medical Security Insurance Company. Dar had 3 children and 5 grandchildren who were her pride and joy. Her greatest joy was to be with her family for birthdays and holidays. Especially Christmas, which was her favorite. Dar worked tirelessly to ensure she found the perfect gift for everyone and decorated the tree and house to perfection. Dar also loved to shop “anywhere/anytime”. She loved going to the mall with her grandchildren and having special one on one time with each of them. Dar endured a 40 year struggle with ankylosing spondylitis. She experienced ongoing pain and physical limitations. Dar did not complain. She always greeted everyone with a warm and gentle smile, never sharing her burden. Dar will be sadly missed by her husband Tim, children: Chris Ebben of Wrightstown, Jeff (Ann) Vande Hey of Brillion, Vicki (Mark) Coenen of Wrightstown; grandchildren: Bradi , Bryna (special friend Alex) and Danica (special friend Nate) Ebben, Chloe and Derek Vande Hey; Sisters: Sandy (Mike) Coffey of Kaukauna, Mary (Rick) Babler of Harrison; Brother-in-Law Ken (Kathy) Van De Hey of Greenleaf; Sister-in-Law Connie (Harlan) Fink of Kaukauna; special companion: Charlie and granddog Pickles. She will also be sadly missed by lifelong friend Mary (Dan) Verstegen of Little Chute. Dar was preceded in death by her parents; father and mother-in-law: Merlin and Dorothy Van De Hey; brothers; Gary and Bruce Vanevenhoven. Family and friends may visit at St. Clare Parish-St. Paul Site, Wrightstown, on Thursday, July 21, from 2:30pm until 5:15pm. Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 5:30pm Thursday with the Rev. Brian Wideman officiating. Interment in St. Paul Catholic Cemetery, Wrightstown. Cotter Funeral Home of Wrightstown is assisting the family. Online condolences at www.cotterfuneralhome.com The family would like to thank the staff at Appleton Manor Care for their care, friendship and humor over the past 5 months. Also, the ICU staff at Appleton ThedaCare Regional Medical Center for their extraordinary care and kindness. In addition, Dr. Montgomery Elmer for his years of dedicated care and compassion. Mom we will miss you dearly and promise to carry on your traditions. We will strive every day to make you proud and love and support each other.